Congratulations on your engagement! This is such an exciting time :-) Once you start wedding planning, it will be a whirlwind, so definitely take a few days or weeks to simply enjoy the feeling of being engaged... and possibly having a new ring on your finger?! ;-)
Once you feel ready to take on the task of wedding planning, start with figuring out a budget for you and your future spouse. Take a look at your regular monthly income and expenses, and see where you can save a little each month to set aside money specifically for your wedding. Once you figure out you can save X dollars each month for X months, that's your budget! For example, if you can set aside $300 each month and you plan a two year engagement, you'll have $7,200 for your wedding budget. That will give you a starting point for how many people you can invite, based on your feasible budget. The cost of wedding expenses varies based on location throughout the country, so keep that in mind and try not to compare your budget with someone else's, who may be planning in an area with very different costs.
Make a tentative guest list of all the people you'd like to invite with your significant other. The number of people on this list will be important when deciding on a venue, when it comes to the capacity of the venue and price per person. Also check with the people you care most about being able to attend your wedding, to ensure they are available on dates you're considering, as well as traveling to your wedding location (if planning an out of town wedding).
After you figure out what you can afford for your wedding budget and have a realistic guest list, look into the "big ticket" vendors...
Start with the venue - decide where you'd like to get married. You need a venue before you can actually set a date. Questions to consider about the venue...
Once you have a venue set, you have a date, and then you can look for someone to officiate your wedding. The most important thing (and pretty much the only thing) you need to actually get married is an officiant.
If your venue doesn't provide in-house catering (or if you want to and are allowed to hire an outside caterer), you'll need to search for a caterer. Ask family and friends for recommendations on caterers they've used that had delicious food! Or search online in your area for the type of food you're looking to have at your wedding and then set up some tastings - Mmm!
Obviously I'm a little biased ;-) but I think photography is one of the most important wedding vendors and expenses. Great photographers get booked early - months (or years) in advance! Search online for photographers in your area and ask family and friends if they have recommendations for photographers they love, and then start reaching out to some of them whose work you love.
A videographer is often an optional splurge, but if you can afford to have videography in addition to photography, I highly recommend it! It's such a different way of re-living your wedding day than looking through photos :-) Videographers may also get booked far in advance, so start researching early.
Great DJs and musicians also get booked far in advance, so start searching and asking for recommendations early. A DJ can make or break a reception, so choose one who you trust to keep the celebration going for hours!
There are different kinds of wedding planners and coordinators. Some venues will have a coordinator designated for your wedding, which is a nice bonus. If you're looking for a planner or coordinator outside of your venue, you'll usually have a few different options: Full planning, partial or month-of planning, or day-of coordination. Your wedding budget may largely determine if and what planning/coordination service you choose to have, but if you can afford it, I would highly recommend a day-of coordinator (if your venue doesn't already provide one)! A day-of coordinator will allow you to relax and let someone else deal with stress and last minute questions and issues that might arise.
So many brides want to go out and immediately start dress shopping as a way to celebrate being engaged. There is nothing wrong with wanting to try on some gowns and have that glowing bride feeling, but don't commit to a dress right away. Aside from the fact that there may be more important areas you'd like to set money aside for in the beginning, you don't want to end up with "dress regret". Some brides buy a dress that they LOVE right away, but then a few months later they're questioning their decision - ugh! Go dress shopping and enjoy it! Take a few trips to different places with different styles and be sure to find a dress you truly love!
If you decide to have floral arrangements for your wedding, start looking at florists in your area.
Dessert! Sometimes the highlight of a wedding reception for guests, and sometimes the most fun part of planning for a couple :-)
Some brides insist on doing their own hair and/or makeup for their wedding day. If you have an excellent hand at doing formal hair and makeup to begin with and you don't mind the added stress of the day, then go for it. This is one area though that's nice to be pampered with on your big day, especially after all the hecticness and stress leading up to it.
Is your wedding out of town for a lot of guests? Don't forget to make a room block at a nearby hotel for guests to stay at. Some hotels will also provide a discounted rate for those booking under the room block. How far away from the hotel from your venue? Consider booking a shuttle for your guests so they don't have to worry about getting to and from the venue, especially if they've had some drinks to celebrate. If you're not providing transportation, have the names and phone numbers of some local taxi companies available for guests to call if needed.
A bridal party obviously isn't a vendor you need to book, but it's an important topic I wanted to mention because it's another area couples can get caught up in in the early stages of wedding planning. Try to remember that you do not *need* a bridal party. It's perfectly possible and acceptable to get married with just the two of you standing at the alter and an officiant pronouncing you as newlyweds! I'll let you in on a little secret... Not everyone even likes being in weddings! Not having a bridal party doesn't mean your family and friends don't mean the world to you; it just means they get to attend as beloved guests and don't have the added stress that often comes with being in a wedding party. If you do choose to have a bridal party, pick just a few people you really cannot imagine not standing at the alter with you. Oftentimes, as soon as a couple gets engaged, they want to share the news with everyone and are eager to ask their closest friends to be bridesmaids or groomsmen. I highly recommend not asking anyone to be in your bridal party until about 6-8 months before the wedding. Sometimes friendships and relationships change. I've heard many times that a bride and bridesmaid or maid of honor had a falling out and now the bride doesn't want that person in the wedding. It can make for some very uncomfortable situations (and once you ask someone to be in your wedding, you cannot un-ask them without damaging the relationship for good). Bottom line - Don't feel obligated to ask all (or any) of your "close" friends or family members, and don't worry if the numbers on each side of the wedding party aren't even - that's okay! The only people in the bridal party that are needed are the couple themselves :-)
Some of the most important and fastest booking wedding vendors are listed above, but there are a LOT more things to remember for your budget and to do when planning your wedding. Here are some other things to keep in mind as you plan...
Woo! That was a LOT of information, wasn't it?! Although I tried to make the list above as comprehensive as possible, it's by no means all-inclusive. There will always be things that pop up during wedding planning, and there will also be some vendors that are more important than other vendors for each couple. What you choose to set as priorities for your wedding will be unique to you and your significant other. The most important thing is that you communicate as a couple, set your budget for something you can realistically achieve, and then plan the most beautiful wedding that is true to both of you and your love for one another! And don't forget to enjoy being engaged for a little, before jumping full speed into wedding planning! ;-)
Do you have other helpful suggestions for wedding planning? What are some must-have vendors and wedding items for you? Feel free to comment and share so other brides and grooms can learn from your experience as well! Do you need more help with wedding planning? Feel free to send me a message to chat more - I love talking about wedding plans! :-)
Congratulations on your engagement, brides and grooms! Happy wedding planning! :-)